Top Image

AN UPDATE

Posted on: Thursday






I want to say THANK YOU to everyone who wrote to me, in comments and emails, when I wrote about Biet's devastating fall the other day. It baffles me that so many lovely women took the time out of their day to write to me and share their personal experiences from raising their own children. This whole Mothering thing is beautiful & natural & empowering & really truly an honor- and also, at times, absolutely terrifying. It was so wonderful to read about other Mamas who have been there, and to know that their little ones continued to breathe and grow and thrive just fine. Thank you.

To update everyone on baby girl: she has completely healed, both in body and spirit. She was a bit out of sorts for a couple of days following the fall, eating and sleeping at irregular hours, and struggling to get comfortable in her sore body. It seemed that the only place she could truly relax was in her Mama's arms, so that's where she remained 90% of the time. It also took about three days for the last trace of blood to disappear from her little nose and for her to breath completely normally. But, alas, her little body mended itself, and her sleeping schedule regulated, and her smiles returned, and she seems to be doing just fine. She has actually developed in leaps and bounds since the fall {forming real words! clapping her hands!}, so much so that Gaby and I have been joking that the bump on the head might have done some good. :)

With eating, though, its almost as if Biet regressed back being a new infant again: all of her progress with solids went out the window, and she's back to getting most of her nutrition from breast milk. Nursing is just such a comfort for her. Although I'm not thrilled about waking up every couple hours all night to nurse her, I know that this is what I am here for: to Mother her as she needs and to provide her with all I can give. I try remind myself to be proud of the strong nursing relationship that we have built (even after her milk-free week), and to be grateful that I am able to nurse her. Every time I am abruptly awakened from sleep and have to groggily pull myself out of bed, I think about the fact that one day she will be grown- a little girl who doesn't want to nurse anymore. And I know that when that day comes, I will look back on this time fondly, as the precious and short period that it is, when all that my baby girl needed was right here within me.

She is sleeping in her crib once again (hurray!) so we don't have to worry about any more accidents. However, I suddenly realized that she has almost outgrown her mini crib! We are trying to decide what the next step should be: a regular sized crib, a toddler bed, a floor bed??  I would be so grateful to hear from any of you Mamas out there with experience in this matter..

..and on another note, if anyone has seen those little leather heart shoes in an adult size, please let me know.. every time I dress her I imagine how amazing (& comfortable) a big version of those little beauties would be..

18 COMMENTS:

  1. Funny that you say she is going to outgrow it. She looks to have plenty of room in the picture you posted. My two year still sleeps in the mini crib at my parents house. I am a crib mama and plan to keep both my kids in their cribs for as long as I can. I love knowing they are safe (and trapped!) lol

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. We have a little time before it is too small, but I see the day coming soon when she will outgrow it. When she is stretched out there's not a whole lot of extra room. I love knowing that she is trapped in there, safe and sound, as well! :)

      Delete
  2. Floor bed all he way Mama. We do this with out 22 month old and it works great. He can get in and out by himself when he wakes up from naps. You can also put pilows around it until she masters how to get in and out by herself. Our little man took a few little falls learning but nothing serious. :) Good luck Mama!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Did you use the crib mattress, a toddler size bed, to a twin bed? I was thinking that if we do this we should just go for a twin so that it can transition, on day, off the floor and into a regular frame. But maybe that's too big for a baby..

      Delete
    2. Twin or full is what I would recommend. I started with the crib mattress but now we have a full and its perfect. I feel safer with i being bigger b/c our son rolls everywhere! But we can also use it when he gets older so why not? haha. :)

      Delete
  3. Oh I feel for you! What a nightmare. :( So glad she's ok though! My Lillian is just a couple weeks younger than Biet it looks like (born May 28) and still won't sleep in a crib. :( I am afraid of her sleeping in our bed because even though we have carpet under the bed, not wood floors, I think a fall would have a terrible outcome because our bed is so stinking TALL. It's probably four feet off the ground. As of now, my husband and I take turns holding her while she sleeps. We want to get to all be awake at the same time though, so I really want to get her to sleep in her crib. I nurse her to sleep, and any time I try to move her after, she wakes up. Any tips? I can't let her cry either, I just can't stomach it, so cry it out won't work for us.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I don't mean to butt in on your question, but both my kids never slept with us. They sleep in their own beds, sleep 12 hours a night and take GREAT naps during the day. We did CIO once with my oldest (she's 18 months) and I'm with you, it makes me sick to hear them cry. We didn't do it with tour youngest, she's 7 months. Yes, I have babes that are 11 1/2 months apart.

      There are several keys to having a great sleeper:
      1. Sleep train during the day. We are too tired to do anything good or well during the night. Work on napping first. If your babe is 11 months old (I think I did the math right) then she should be taking 2 2 hour naps during the day. At least 2 naps, maybe not that long.
      2. Full feedings that are constant during the day. Like, breakfast during the day. Maybe a midmorning snack before a morning nap. Lunch. nap and late afternoon snack before dinner. Make sure she is not snacking all day.
      3. Put her down to sleep awake. She needs to learn to put herself to sleep. This needs to be taught now, so she can do it later in life.
      4. The academy of pediatrics says it's okay if they fuss for a few minutes after you put them down. Sometimes they are so tired, there is nothing that you can do and they need to work through it themselves. If we need to do this (like tonight), I offered AB a drink and a snack, so I knew that she was not hungry or thirst. I then rocked her for a few minutes to calm down and we talked about how everyone was going night night and kissed her and laid her down. She did fuss for like a minute and it was over. Just set a goal, okay if 1 minute I'll go in there. If you need to go and grab the mail, go potty, whatever you need to go to let it happen, do it.

      Hang in there momma, you can do this! There is no need to be sleep deprived just because you have small children!!

      Delete
    2. Have you looked into rocking cribs? The mini crib we have is actually the DaVinci Mini Rocking Crib, and the rocking part is the only reason it has been so easy getting her to sleep in it. The bottom of the crib is actually sloped so that it can sway side to side, and it has little drop stoppers to keep it still when you need.

      Biet just loves motion. It calms her. She will fall asleep on my shoulder and I then I'll lay her in the crib and begin rocking it briskly. She wakes up if I try to transition her to somewhere still, and sometimes she'll stir when I first lay her down. But I'll rock her for a couple of minutes and she's back out. Then I just put the stopper down and that's it: freedom to have our bed all to ourselves!

      Delete
    3. Thank you Abbey and Belle!! I really appreciate the help and suggestions from you both. I'll definitely try starting in the day during her naps, that's a good idea. I'm way too tired at night to keep up with it! Wow, that's amazing your children are so close in age!! Sounds like it's working great for you!
      Belle, that's interesting, I'd never heard of that type of crib! It sounds great, I'm going to look into getting one now!! Thank you both. :)

      Delete
  4. Have you thought about a crib that converts?? I don't know how much space you have (we live in charelston and have room for each child to have a full size crib) but ikea has some great (and super cute) cribs that convert to toddler beds. So glad to see that your sweet babe is okay and don't worry, just keep offering her solids, she'll get back to where she was. And don't have that mom guilt, it's straight from the pit of you know where and does nothing in bettering you as a momma and a wife!!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thanks Abbey! We have given some thought to a convertible crib. They seem to make a lot of sense economically, and grow with your child for a few years. I just wonder how comfortable the bed is for a bigger toddler/child. I wonder if its not better to just go for a real bed and put it on the floor. Have you converted any of your cribs to beds yet? If so, how are they working?

      Delete
    2. I just saw your children's' ages (WOW 2 babies within a year! I am in awe of you. They are going to be such close siblings, that's amazing.) so I guess you probably haven't converted them to beds yet. Which brand of crib did you choose?

      Delete
  5. My parents bought us the rock star crib with Annabelle, our oldest. It has an attached changing table that converts to a toddler bed, then a full size bed. With Emma (we didn't ask my parents that time around. First an amazing wedding and then an awesome crib, it was too much and they didn't offer), we bought her a vintage crib at a thrift store. Our plan has always been to keep the big crib and let all our babes sleep in it. So when AB goes out of it, she will move into a twin bed. And same with the other children in the future.
    My friend had an ikea crib and they converted it, there babe doesn't seem to mind. It's the same mattress as the crib mattress.

    ReplyDelete
  6. So glad Biet is doing well. As I read your last post, my 6 month old daughter was sleeping on the bed upstairs, and I immediately ran upstairs and transferred her to her crib. I can't imagine how terrified you must have been. Sometimes our worst paranoid fears become a reality. I think every parent has had some sort of scare with their babies. My son, who is now 4, fell from his changing table when he was about 8 months old. It was terrifying, but I trusted my gut and knew he would be OK. I've been much more cautious this time around, but no matter how vigilante we are over our children, there is always something out of left field that can turn our world upside down.

    ReplyDelete
  7. Aw bless her, she is looking so peaceful asleep and is so cute x

    ReplyDelete

Please share ... your thoughts // comments // questions // ideas .... thanks!
xx

PETITE BIET NYC Copyright 2013 | All rights reserved ©